Aahh… dolce far niente! A new year resolution

Ah! dolce far niente!. It means “pleasant idleness”, the sweetness of doing NOTHING (in Italian)

It is the start of a new year. Many friends have been posting their new year’s resolutions on Facebook. I believe in having goals and working towards them but somehow, like many people, I have not been very successful in keeping my new year’s resolutions.

This year, I decided to make only ONE resolution. One that sounds too simple and almost silly to make it as a New Year’s resolution.

I want to learn to find the joy of doing nothing. The two key words “Joy” and “Nothing.

Before you jump in to tell me how I should not be lazy (my mum would), I am not referring to being a beach bum, not finding employment or inactivity.

“Don’t underestimate the value of Doing Nothing, of just going along, listening to all the things you can’t hear, and not bothering.” –  Winnie the Pooh

The concept of ‘doing nothing’ sounds good to many people but something that many fail to do, especially Asians (and women). Many of us are so used to being too busy and doing too much. Learning to do ‘nothing’ or finding the joy and sweetness to just do nothing sound like an impossible task. Doing nothing is not inactivity. “Sit” around is a verb, so is “Smell” the roses but how many of us are actually doing that?

I read a great article in ELLE magazine asking readers when was the last time you really take a day off to sit on your couch, with a nice cup of coffee, read a good book and not feel guilty about not cleaning the house, not running errand, not attending to last minute work emails and just give yourself a day to just ‘be with yourself” and “do nothing much?” The article went on to say that women are prone to suffer from guilt for taking time off for themselves.

For a long time, I had been so busy with work and when I had a day off, I also had a long ‘to-do’ list – “go for gym training, go to the bank, reply ‘urgent’ emails, pick up groceries, meet up friends for dinner etc” Before I know it, the day off was gone and I was tired and upset that I didn’t get to REST!

Recently, due to various reasons, I decided to take a break from work (I realised it was a great decision I made in 2010).

A part of me is so eager to find the next new exciting role, especially when great friends and contacts are enthusiastic about sharing work opportunities. The wiser bit of me is persuading myself to just take some time off to breathe, enjoy this rare period when I can truly do the things I have always wanted to do but always too busy to.

I am convinced that doing nothing takes more effort and more determination than to rush around and doing many things.

I am not saying that my goal is not to work so that I can master the art of doing nothing, what I am saying is, I want to learn to find the joy in resting and taking absolute pleasure in idling some times (even if it’s just spending 15mins each day after work lying on my bed, staring at the ceiling and not feel guilty that I’ve not updated this blog or not reply to my work emails).

My pastor often reminds us of a great revelation he shared about the topic -“restful increase.” Key words – Rest and you’ll find the Increase. I am not going to preach here (follow the link if you want to read more about what Pastor said…).

To end this post, here are some pictures of my New Year holiday at a lovely resort by the beach in Bintan, Indonesia where I learned to enjoy doing absolutely nothing much. I eat, sleep, rest, read, stare at the sea, at the sky and strolled from one end of the beach to the other by myself, listening to my favourite music …then eat and sleep again..”

So, today marks the start of my new year resolution – in search of la dolce far niente. The next time you see me stressed and rushing around doing 1001 things, you know what to tell me!

I am guilty

It gets harder each year to gather friends to have a nice Christmas dinner. Some have business travels to attend to (yes, I know, usually planning meetings for the following year), family vacation and others are just forever busy. So, Melvin, Kevin, Walter, Vanessa and I decided to have our super early Christmas drinks last night at Red Dot Brewery.

We always know we are a group of very like-minded friends and we can talk non-stop for hours – from business to fashion, trends, food and yes, gossips (about other people)! And no surprise at all when we ended up ordering the exact same food!

Van thought it was funny and took a photo of our five plates of Fish & Chips and tagged each of us on our Facebook. Some of my friends on FB who saw the photo asked me if the F&C was on special promotion. No, it wasn’t.

Fish & Chips Christmas dinner

Anyway, as usual, we had a great time. It was also the first time Dr. Kevin Lim managed to join us since he is now back in Singapore – for good.

During dinner, Walter said I should start blogging again since I am not working now and have all the time to myself.

I do feel guilty for not updating the blog. So, last night, I edited the header and re-arranged some minor features and tell myself, ok, I’ll make it a new year resolution (an early one) to start writing again.

And yes, for friends who are not aware, I have left Yahoo! and I am now enjoying a nice little break. So, stay tuned for updates on this blog and let’s have Christmas dinners/ drinks!

Christmas shopping starts today!!

Back with the first post of the year

It’s coming to the end of March 09 and this is my very first post this year!

Interestingly, even when I stopped blogging, there are still traffic coming to this blog. Readers still comment on some old posts. That is somewhat encouraging.

Although from Brendan’s PR index, this blog just keeps on falling. haa. I really applaud Brendan for pulling together the index, it’s a great resource for me. I enjoy clicking on the links, knowing that they’ll lead me to some interesting PR blogs. Over the last one year, I’ve made several online acquaintances from that list. Number 7 and 13 are folks I follow on Twitter and added as friends on facebook. Number 36 is a friend of mine in Singapore, currently doing his master degree in Australia. There are several others on that list that I read regularly.

So, what have I been up to the last many months? WORK! Yes, work has taken a little too much of my life, but it is getting better and I am still having a great time at Yahoo!

A recently illness (infection causing some problems to ear and nose) had caused some discomfort and more stress. Forced to cancel a trip to Taipei (what a shame!) and I’ve been spending a lot more time in Indonesia.

We are launching the Yahoo! Mobile Developer Awards that we ran in Singapore last year in Indonesia. Met some really cool developers and it is getting exciting!

There are alot of good food in Jakarta!

Big yummy prawns

(I don’t know where I ate this but the seafood are all so fresh, yummy and huge!)

The other nice thing about Jakarta is, we stay at the Ritz Carlton Hotel, and you would think it costs a bomb, but it is quite affordable. Spacious and a huge comfy bed.

room2

2 days to 2009 – Personal wrap-up

2008 has been a strange but very blessed year for me. While most of the “wrap-up” posts I read are about trends for this and that, what’s big in 08 in the world etc etc. I am going to make this post totally personal.

So, here’s a quick re-cap of my 2008!

I have 2 more days to my 1-year at Yahoo!. It has been a fantastic year for work. Despite all the ups and downs, I make alot of new friends, visited alot of new countries (I’ve never traveled so much in my life) in 12 months and learnt alot of new things. Broaden my perspectives of business in the region and learn about different cultures in Asia. For a while, I was living out of my suitcase, my boss called me the “little road warrior”. While it was alot of tears and sweat, I had alot of fun. While outsiders commented and criticized about the company, I truly think this is one of the best organisations I’ve been in; with a great culture and I am very blessed with a fantastic “multi-cultural” team and most importantly, I found great mentors.
Socially, I have cut back on time spent on blogging in the second half of the year and invested more time with my girlfriends, family and loved ones. While I sometimes feel bad that I don’t update my blog as often, despite drafting several entries (that are still sitting in the draft folder), I am glad that I chose to take time off to rest. I do, however missed hanging out with the other bloggers and discussing PR and social media/ technology topics that are close to heart.

Few weeks ago, I agreed to co-author a separate blog with an ex-colleague, mainly recording blessings and revelations of God. Completely different from this blog but I see that as more of a journal-writing, helping both of us remember the blessings of God, despite the crisis and turmoils in the world.

Financially, 2008 has been fantabulous! I am crowning myself “THE SHOPAHOLIC!” From the Gucci bags, Tiffanys, to $10 junks and I’ve built a mini library of books! I’ve spent so much this year, which I have to significantly cut down. But again, I had fun!

Other highlights in 08 include signing up with WorldVision on the sponsorship of a kid from Thailand. I am very excited about it and see that as a long-term commitment. Shall share more if i get the chance in next post.

So, what’s for 09?

I am not sure yet. I am still thinking of “resolutions” but a few key things in the pipeline – Make a trip to UK and making plans to volunteer @ Habitat for Humanity. Pay a visit to the sponsored kid at some point and looking for a new house to buy!

I am looking forward to 2009, despite the financial crisis. Life goes on and I pray that all my friends are truly blessed in the new year!

How was your 2008?

Bloggers gone missing…

I saw Mitch Joel’s twitter link to one of his blog post, asking folks on how you feel about those who are no longer blogging (or have slowed down) because they are busy with stuff? He had went on to ask if “you feel cheated?” as readers. While i figured there are several ways to look at the post and probably more relevant for certain group of people, I still am not sure I agree 100% with the post.

I honestly don’t think it’s an excuse for bloggers to not blog as much. I think blogging shouldnt be “hard work” as well. I remembered a good friend who’s one of those top bloggers telling me “don’t feel obligated to blog because you have to, blog because you want to..”.

For myself, I’ve definitely slowed down, though not stopped. I twitter and interact on facebook more nowadays. It’s not that I didn’t want to write a post every other day but when you are traveling alot, and unlike agencies who might see their responsibilities to “engage in social media”, therefore more blogging and more podcasting, there are alot of people who have endless meetings to attend, endless traveling and endless hours of late nights doing a job that has alot of other objectives to meet (beside engaging the communities), so when some of us get home, the last thing we think of is to switch on laptop and start to write a blog. Personally, all i could think of, most of the nights is – try to get some sleep (and there is family and health to consider).

There are many ways to connect and communicate. Blogging is one of them, not the only means.

Having said that, I am keeping this blog and I’m still writing when I have an opinion to make, when i have something to share or when i want to record some thoughts for future reference.

So, honestly, does a reader really feel CHEATED when a blogger stopped or slowed down blogging? As a reader, I see it as a shame if my favourite blogger stopped completely but i am not sure about feeling “cheated”… I have a couple of friends who are in digital media business who used to blog about wonderful stuff but had to stop because of overwhelming amount of work, do i feel bad or cheated? Not really…

Have you seen these blogs? – October Higlights

I have decided to try and do occassional posts on bloggers who have interesting blogs. They might not be your typical “celebrity / A-list” bloggers but nevertheless have their pool of avid blog readers.

Note that these might not even be the usual tech/ pr/ social media folks. At podcamp yesterday, I was inspired by Amelia’s and Preetam’s blogs even though they don’t blog about topics that I usually write about.

I shall start with the ones that I actually know the authors (and they are all Asians and none of them really write about the topics I usually cover). Here are the 3 for today –

1) Siew Kum Hong – He’s my colleague at Yahoo! (our senior legal counsel) and also Singapore’s Nominated Member of Parliament. Although I was never quite into politics but Kum Hong’s blog posts are often inspiring and spur discussions and thoughts from members of the public. At podcamp yesterday, someone mentioned that there are more and more MPs writing blogs and going onto facebook.

2) Pluit Solutions – Herryanto Siatono is probably not an unfamiliar name to many. He’s the founder of BookJetty and recently joined Yahoo! too. As an avid reader, I find Herry’s blog really informative.

3) Timothy Go – Tim is a fantastic friend and a great news anchor on Channel News Asia. We used to blog on Livejournal (he still does) and I moved to wordpress and set up this blog. Expect to find a wide variety of topics in his blog, from behind the scenes of his work to his travel adventure (yes, he travels more than i do) and follow up to some cool events (that he always get invited to the chi chi and glam stuff).

Have you read any interesting blogs recently?